Valuable asset

I have been busy for the past weeks.. I think I’ll still be busy in the coming week.. need to pack and all.. well, I am looking forward to go back to SG but I’m not looking forward to leave BH behind šŸ™ I think I’m gonna miss him badly especially when I see our new home, it was supposed to be our dream home.. I mean.. we planned our life in SG BUT with God’s blessing, BH is relocated here.. I still believe God have a beatiful plan for us.. maybe it’s just unfolding slowly , not how I envisioned it to be

While I look forward to the reno, did research and get excited to seek BH’s opinion, BH is reluctant and somewhat reserved to talk about it. We hardly have any disagreements.. BUT the topic of our home in SG just stirs up a whole lot of bad emotions – we always end up being upset with each other. THIS doesn’t happen when we plan our wedding.. Then I know.. BH just isn’t into our SG home anymore … ahh… it hurts because I always wanted a home to call our home.. not with anyone else but with him

Facebook is evil..it gives you insights into other pple’s lives… and that’s when u realised that how this and that person is married.. having their 1st or even 2nd child… how she/he is preparing for their new home together… that’s when I realised that though I’m married, I AM NOT SETTLED – He’s here and I NEED to be there. No, we are not talking about having kids.. but the very thought of having a dog is difficult too.. I don’t regret coming here.. I don’t regret getting married… Just regretted how I signed my life away

So, just like the GE. I wanna mk my presence felt. I have been trying to be a 101% good wife. I want to be a valuable asset, not a liability. I hope that he’ll just think of me fondly when I’m gone.

oh well… till then… next entry? maybe when i’m in SG.. I wanna blog happy thoughts…

I want to be normal

you know… the typical Singaporean who works late, works super hard and feels super tired everyday… the kind who stomachs being upset and angry but have to remain speechless.. and the type that save all the hard earn money just to get married, buy a flat and settle down. Yes! I wanna be that type and I had always envisioned myself to be like that….

I like working, I like being upset and angry, I like saving money…life may not be a bed of roses but knowing that at the end of the day, we’ll come home to the same place mks everything worth it.. I just wanna be where you are and not be torn apart by my work

“Go back first and we’ll work this out…” When? How? I feel like a child being left at a child-care centre, waiting for my parent to bring me home…what if my parent did not come as promised?

This time, I’m not the child, I’m your wife.

It’s 9 years!

Shortly after our birthdays, it’s our 9 years anniversary! haha..It’s amazing how time flies.. I mean.. i don’t even think that BH and I will go this far… BUT we did!! šŸ˜€ ok… I still rem the times I felt soooooooooo embarassed that I had such a ‘useless’ boyfriend.. who have NOTHING NOTHING at all and is as poor ( or even poorer than) as a church mice.. glad we are past that phrase… and how I persevered and believed..

anyhow, we didn’t celebrate…in fact, we went grocery shopping and bought some new ingredients because I wanted to cook NEW things.. haha… so on sunday, I cooked while BH played games!!!

Sneak peak of my yummy food – can you guess what I cooked? haha…





I promised I will update my food blog with recipes soon… I had been cooking.. taking pictures BUT not updating it šŸ™ Heh..I deliberately made the above FOOD extra spicy to ‘punish’ BH for ‘enjoying himself’ as I worked in the kitchen… In the end, he finished the food and had a tummyache! I was DELIGHTED.. haha.. think I’m a sadist!

Because I’m back to the ‘FREE’ me again… it’s time to catch up with things I love doing… šŸ™‚

I was in the mood for Scrapbooking – yes, I am still working on our wedding photos…





On friday, I spent the whole afternoon scrapbooking… then I realised that I had no time to prepare dinner. Heng ah.. found a FREE pizza code and ordered pizza and buffalo wings for dinner.. Invited WQ over to help eat the pizza… heh.. and it was all gone in a spilt second! v good… I don’t like leftovers!

AND… my BABY-G reached me on saturday, on our 9 years anniversary!! yay!!! šŸ˜€
Super happy! I know it’s just a watch but to me it was like a childhood dream came true! ok… so now.. i feel so KE$HA!! (Changed my mixpod music for the effect!) wahaha





Happy weekend! šŸ™‚ Hope u had a good one too!

The BIG ‘3’

3 days after my 27.. comes BH’s Big ‘3’! haha.. oh well.. we did nothing special.. just went to Seattle downtown and walked around.. BH made a good deal at Macys, scoring a cool pair of Levis at $9.99 and a stylo shirt at $6? wah… I bought 2 Gap tops at $15 as it was on BOGO. Gap tops make good working clothes ya know…

Above all, I gave BH his bday gift – a CK belt! and…. my bday gift is still NOT HERE!! so…apparently, it’s kinda lost in transit??!!! I mean.. we had purchased numerous items from Amazon.. and it’s the first time this had happened.. sob šŸ™ looks like i’m not fated to be own a Baby G. Fortunately, amazon agree to give us a refund if we still don’t get it by coming monday

We also went to the Nordstrom at downtown Seattle to look at Chanel bags.. haha… the SAs were not friendly at all.. I hate SA that talk among themselves while they are assisting you.. geez… It feels that you are not a valued customer. IF I am mking a HUGE purchase, I would spend money feeling happy and well taken care of… anyway, we left the store getting NOTHING?! heh..

After shopping, we had dinner at The Olive and Grape
I love Mediterranean food… so when there’s a livingsocial deal on it, we jumped on the chance immediately! Finally, we kept the coupon to a special occasion and used it… well… the Lamb Kebabs ( looks like Satay) was quite nice… the meatballs were nice too… however, the entree was only ok… we ordered grilled fish.. I was expecting the fish to be more flavorful but there was little aroma of spices and herbs. The only saving grace was the fish was fresh.. at least there’s no fishy smell



Actually, I wasn’t even full after dinner.. I wanted to order more BUT the food isn’t even up to standard.. so we just left.. Now I miss Panos Kleftiko Greek Taverna We went there some time back and the food was super!

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On Sunday, Yilun treated us birthday peeps ( all 3!! BH and WQ bday on 26, while mine is 23) to dimsum brunch.. then we watched Rango together… eeks… v disapting!

After which, BH bought me to Neiman Marcus Chanel store again.. hahaha.. it was as though he wanted to redeem his ‘sins’ I saw the bag/wallet I wanted!!! wah… the SA was super nice – she kept taking out the bags to let me see/touch/hold and try… even checked out her system for different colours and styles I might be interested in… BH was super nice… he was like asking for new pieces and all… it wasn’t cheap.. but touched my heart that he was super serious at getting the item for me… šŸ™‚ Ok.. so I did a silly thing… I stopped him in the nick of time and pulled him out of the shop.. nah… I don’t need no Chanel….

After which, we went to Purple for dinner.. haha.. like FINALLY





BH and I decided to splurge and bought a bottle of wine to go with our dinner..on sunday wine was on special: 1/2 price for a bottle. Bh’s entree was fried rabbit!! boo.. it tasted like chicken! Just felt abit cruel eating rabbit.. so I had pasta instead. The food was ok… but the ambience was good.. Hope to dine here again in near future.

That’s how we spent Bh’s birthday weekend… it was fun… and that’s when I realised that 30å²ēš„ē”·äŗŗéžåøøęœ‰é­…åŠ›:)

simple 27

How did I spend my birthday? well, the truth is I felt miserable and scared the whole week long… things aren’t going my way.. we made reservations for dinner at Purple which I always wanted to go for the longest time… BUT I cancelled it last minute.. just because I haven’t been feeling so good šŸ™ For the 1st time ever since I’m in the US, i felt so miserable that I took a 2hr nap in the afternoon instead of going to the gym.

anyway, I know BH got me a Baby-G watch which I had been eyeing since I was in Primary school? haha.. i really needed a watch because I only have 1 formal looking watch. So his bday gift for me is going to be late. Out of desperation (I think), he told me he was getting a Chanel bag for me. I think he’s bullsh*ting… until now.. I still think so… but you know what? I was just too miserable to find fault with him… ahhh… we don’t have much time left .. y sour our r/s over a gift? nah…

On my birthday, i cooked a simple dinner.. prepared his lunch box…it was just another day. BH came home slightly earlier and presented me with a card, flowers and cake. It’s nothing much but i appreciate it




I was kidding with him that we could keep the candles and use them when we are 72! Not sure if we will be celebrating bday together then? haha

We had the cake… he did the dishes then we lazed around watching my fave The Middle and Modern Family- just like any Wednesday night

I think BH is crazy… he likes it when I cry as I read the card he wrote! So this time I deliberately just LOOK (not read) thru’ the card but I still cannot help it and teared a little…haha.. ok fine.. so he decided to read it for me.. and I teared even more… it’s been ages since he wrote me a card and I was v touched! esp when he wrote+said ” My success is yours, my failure is mine ” ( I actually googled this sentence to see where he copied from BUT I can’t find anything!) that’s such a sweet thing to say…esp when I met THE major setback recently..




Simplicity is bliss.. and I can ask for nothing more. Can we spend every birthday together pls?

Fear

Just when everything is going on well.. i fear that all these little ‘happiness’ will be taken away from me… you know… just like that *snaps fingers*

In aboutĀ 2.5 mths time, i’ll be back in SG for a short vacation.. without BH that is… oh well.. the main pt is to do slight reno of our flat.. alone šŸ™ I am looking forward and yet… afraid… don’t really like to mk decisions alone… not what I envisioned how things will be

when i’m away.. i’m also afraid that BH won’t miss/think about me .. then he might slowly realise that ” without Amanda… things is so much easier and better…” sigh…. I am not having PMS.. but sometimes.. I already feel that way… like… the only reason I’m here is to be his personal chef? other than that.. he plays his silly NBA computer games.. he doesn’t need me

or maybe… I’m the one whoĀ don’t need him anymore

101 Reasons to Get (and Stay!) Married

Chanced upon this article here

Some points are rubbish! But other points (which I BOLD are kinda true)

haha…just a few wks before.. BH and I were dining at a cafe, while waiting for our food to come and thinking about the move and to break the silence I asked BH “Do you realised that we always do stupid things together? ” then BH went ” haha.. ya!”

“What’s the MOST stupid thing we did together?” I asked ( and already knew the answer)

“The MOST stupid thing we ever did together is to GET MARRIED! ” BH replied

“BINGO!!!” I’m not surprised! heh… and we still like to do stupid things like this…

“Eh… how many of these reasons you agree with ah?”

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1. You have an excuse to throw one heck of a party.

2. You get the thrill of trying to hide gifts from your partner (and surprising them with those gifts!)
Only for the 1st yr… we don’t bother now… if there’s a gift…we are happy liaoz..

3. If you buy something yummy, you can have fun feeding it to each other.

4. You end up with twice as much awesome stuff in your house to enjoy.
That’s the prob!!! Mks moving difficult!

5. You can work on projects, arts and crafts together.
and we end up having ‘projects’ 1/2 way done and imcomplete for months!

6. You don’t have to watch movies at the theater all by yourself.
watch movie at home

7. You suddenly have an excuse to move to a bigger place.

8. You have a reason to eat healthier.

9. You have a reason to spend your nights doing something other than surfing for porn.
Playing NBA???

10. You don’t have to be bitter about Valentine’s Day anymore.

11. Your family gets bigger.
Not a good reason… esp if u don’t like the other side of the family?

12. You have someone to take roadtrips with.

13. You have someone to explore the world with.

14. You have a reason to keep from letting your messes get out of control.

15. You have someone to share your dreams and fantasies with.

16. You can listen to each other’s problems and help each other through them.

17. You have someone else to consider before you make any rash, crazy or destructive decisions.

18. You have someone to enjoy your music with.

19. Nothing cures headaches like a good orgasm.

20. There are religious benefits, if you’re into that sort of thing.

21. The group of friends you hang out with gets bigger (even if just by one person!)

22. Suddenly, you have someone who will share a pizza with you at 3am.

23. You can have a beer with someone other than your friends.

24. Your friends don’t have to listen to your complaints about being single anymore.

25. You have someone to read with (or to!)
like this silly article!

26. You have someone who will catch you if you fall.

27. You can learn to compromise.

28. You can learn to listen and be understanding.

29. You have an excuse to write love poetry (and leave it for your partner to find.)

30. You have someone you can kiss until the sun rises (and wait up for the dawn with.)

31. You have someone to talk about your past with.

32. You don’t have to sleep alone (or cuddle your pillow)

33. You can teach each other things (other than just patience)

34. You don’t have to self-shoot your profile pictures anymore.

35. That whole ā€œjust friends with benefitsā€ thing? Yeah, never worked for me.

36. You don’t have to go out or pay for massages anymore.

37. Suddenly you can get hugs pretty much whenever you need them.

38. You don’t have to worry about being called a cat lady (or a terminal bachelor!)

39. You have an excuse to cook something more healthy (and more substantial) than just a frozen burrito.

40. You have someone to celebrate your successes with.

41. You have someone rooting for you to succeed.

42. You have someone to stand by you during the hard times.

43. Suddenly you have someone other than your pet who you get to buy surprises for.

44. You have an excuse to keep yourself in shape.

45. Married people are happier on average anyway.

46. You don’t have to go into adult shops alone (or feel creepy doing it)

47. You have someone to share a nice, romantic candle-lit bath with.

48. There are no problems, only solutions.

49. You don’t have to keep your deepest secrets bottled up inside anymore.

50. You have someone (besides your mom) to make stuff for.

51. You don’t have to travel alone anymore.

52. Someone besides you actually cares how your day went.

53. You have someone to dance with.

54. Together, you can do anything.

55. Romantic songs start to make you happy (instead of sad or angry.)

56. You have someone to hold (or who will hold you) when things get really hard.

57. You have someone to protect (or who will protect you) when faced with danger.

58. You have somewhere else to be (when you can’t wait to get out of some situation or another.)

59. You get an awesome excuse to wear an awesome ring.

60. You have an excuse to celebrate holidays even when your family isn’t anywhere nearby.

61. You have an excuse to create new traditions.

62. If you learn a new language together, you have someone to practice it with.

63. You have someone you can be silly with who won’t judge you for it.

64. You have an excuse to be a lady (or a gentleman)

65. You can do cute things (like calling a radio station you know your partner is listening to and dedicate a song to them.)

66. You have someone else’s hair to play with other than your own.

67. You have a good reason to stay positive and not be a downer.

68. You have an excuse to wake someone up with kisses.

67. You have someone to remind you of all the things you have to be grateful for.

68. You have someone you can be yourself around (instead of feeling like you always have to fit in.)

69. You have someone else who believes in your dreams and your ability to succeed.

70. You don’t have to brave the dating scene anymore (or risk ending up in a relationship with someone who is totally nuts!)

71. You can throw away that tattered memo on your desk that says ā€œStay strong! Stay single as long as you can!ā€

72. You have someone who is willing to wash your back for you.

73. A good relationship is like a cushion of air that lifts you up and keeps you flying all day long.

74. You can live all the really juicy (and dangerous) stories vicariously through your single friends instead of first hand.

75. Any children you have will have more than one person to take care of them (and for them to look up to)

76. You have someone you can be eccentric or artistic with.

77. Say goodbye to heartache, dumping, and being dumped.

78. Love is a powerful armor for your self esteem.

79. You have two brains full of knowledge to draw from in a given situation (instead of just one.)

80. You have an excuse not to spend your whole life working.

81. You have someone to come home to (or who can come home to you.)

82. Happy people (i.e. people in good relationships!) are less likely to spend all their money on things they don’t need.

83. It gives your grandparents something grand to be happy about.

84. Telling someone you want to spend your life with them (and them alone) is a powerful way to say ā€œI love you.ā€

85. You don’t have to clean alone.

86. It’s easier to spot cool things in stores – – two sets of eyes!

87. Suddenly there is someone (other than your mom) who appreciates your art.

88. You get the wonderful boost of a kiss on the way out the door.

89. You have someone to call you on it (or warn you) when you make a bad judgement.

90. You have someone to try new foods with (and cook with!)

91. You get to take time off from work for your honeymoon.

92. Happiness is infectious.

93. You get to enjoy the small things, like watching how your partner dresses themselves.

94. You can experience the wonderful dualism of a partnership.

95. It is easier to see your own shortcomings through the eyes of another.

96. Suddenly, you have a reason not to walk away from it all.

97. If your work schedules are different, there’s almost always someone home (and that makes for a safer house!)

98. You can make it romantic and get remarried over and over again.

99. You have a constant companion who you can walk with, run with and enjoy life with.

100. Suddenly you have proof that happy endings really do happen (and they’re just the beginning!)

101. Suddenly, there is someone in your life who makes you really and genuinely want to be a better person.

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I’m blessed šŸ™‚

The qn is…. for how long????

How we spent our Vday?

Vday is such a HUGE thing in the U S of A. Ok.. not that it’s a small thing in SG.. haha… so I really wanted us to dine at a nice resturant.. just like a normal date.. BUT…. the resturant that I wanna go to is FULLY BOOKED ( about 4 days before Vday!) Boo… Blame it on bad planning on our part… Mental note to self: Make reservations for Vday dinner at least 1 week beforehand.

Just when I was going to wallow in self pity… I had to go down to the leasing office to collect my parcels.. and the really sweet and nice lady at the office asked me how BH and I gonna are celebrating Vday..

Me: we are doing nothing..
Lady: not even dinner??
Me: oh.. we had it last night ( BH cooked… that’s another story)
Lady: what about flowers?
Me: nah.. he’s not the romantic type
Lady: well… my bf sends me flowers when I’m sick but not on Vday
Me: that’s better than nothing… better than none at all!! *ouch!! hurts!*
Lady: but my bf is a nice guy…
Me: *trying to comfort us and not mk BH look so bad* haha.. maybe we’ll get a surprise later!!

Then again.. a ‘surprise’ is no ‘surprise’ when u are expecting it.. haha

Anyhow.. I was so convinced that I was gonna have a bad Vday… I kept my mouth shut.. I know that if i were to tell BH.. he try to ‘force’ something out of nothing… oh well…

seconds, minutes, hours crawled by.. it was evening time and BH was still not home at his usual time. I called him and he was like ” I’m around the corner.. reaching… alot of things to do today…” I was like…. “Ok…….”

When he walked in the door… and I realised that he bought pretty tuilips and other goodies ( desserts!) .. I was feeling very happy and relieved but acted like it was nothing…

Here’s what he got –

Tuilips! Love the colour! šŸ™‚



Love the choco dip strawberries... and the so cute tiramisu cup!





Guess what we had for Vday dinner???? Out of sianest.. I cooked spam and eggs for our Vday dinner… hahaha… :X oh well… everyday is Vday right???

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1 day before Vday… BH cooked dinner… phew.. he cook 1 meal… asked 18 qns! Yes.. I noted down!!


He was super upset when I told him how badly he messed up the kitchen… :X

anyhow.. the delicious food!



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2 day before Vday… we went to eat at Claim Jumper ( it’s an american diner… no need to mk reservations.. and they don’t have special menu for Vday…) I find the food v salty… a nice pic the server helped us take… hehe…


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That’s how we spent our Vday… You?? haha… oh.. forgt to add… we played Xbox Kinect after our crappy Egg and spam dinner.. haha..

New home

Some pictures of our humble placeĀ šŸ™‚ I think we can never get tired of decorating our home.. haha..

I really can’t wait for a real place we call our own… a place we know we are here for good and never need to move again..

The exterior – Picture courtesy of WQ


Cool clock which BH insisted on buying ( to replace our pathetic Ikea clock)


The lovely kitchen which we both love!


Bedroom


Workspace + Living area


Super cute decals .. mks me happy just looking at them!


Effiel Tower and BooBoo says ‘Woof!’
I’m loving this green rug.. looks like grass!


That’s all… other parts are still too messy to be pictured :X and we are still awaiting somemore cool items in the mail!

We are homeowners now!

BH’s sis and my sis collected keys on behalf of us! well.. I was so hoping to be there šŸ™

Some pictures which BH’s sis sent us –

Our private door


Love the place with lots of natural light!




ugly toilet


Tell me.. how can I bear to rent it out.. it’s so new… and almost perfect (except for the ugly bathroom tiles)!!