It’s Dec already! so fast!! I wish time would stop for me 🙁
I have been here for 3 years and it had been a wonderful 3 years… I love almost every moment I spent here (except the times I go to the doctor) Yes, I do complain at times… BUT i still like my life now
I think I have reached a certain point in my life that I want to settle down ( not have kids) – I just want to belong in 1 place and know that things won’t change. I used to like moving so as to have ‘change in environment/feng shui’. However, for now… I just want things to remain stagnant and unchanged. Maybe SG is small… everyone goes thru’ a natural progression of things: Go to school, date, get HDB, get married, give birth. Over here, we have more options. People don’t say “You need to have kids early, you are getting old” .. haha… it’s common to take birth control pills though
Everyday, I toyed with the thought of going back to SG with BH. My reasons:
1) When I’m sick, I know where to seek help
2) When I’m lost, I know who to get advice from
3) when I’m hungry, I know where to find good food
4) We have our home there
BH disagreed with me. He countered most of my reasons with his reasons:
1) You NEED to pay to seek help from a doctor
2) You can call home. We have friends here – game to meet up anytime even if it’s a weekday!
3) Ok, food-wise, there’s nothing I can say
4) So what if it’s a HDB. The best we can go is a Condo. When our family gets bigger, we can get a BIG house here
In BH’s opinion, he thinks that ‘money is not an issue’ and that the quality of life is better here. What I always wanted is a home, a real home… how everything is nice and perfect – that’s what I have been saving up for. Now the money is reserved to repay the bond. In SG, I can get everything I want NOW (which will make BH and I unhappy people because we will work like crazy)
Finally, BH said something new which I have never heard before. “Amanda, you are very short-sighted and you keep making all these mistakes. Money is not a problem. I need to GUIDE you to see how this is going to help us in long-term”
I shut up… thought about all my mistakes and decided to let BH ‘guide’ me. We will get there some time… not soon… but some time.