waiting for the drycleaners to deliver my clothes.. they are late . hate to wait, seriously regretted rejecting BH’s offer of us picking the jackets up from the shop. Let me blog an entry while waiting. Boo.. they are not coming today, coz they realise tt my white down jacket is still dirty 🙁
I have always wanted to put this into words .. so here goes –
If you are like me, u will have many of your own ideals of a ‘perfect’ marriage.. i entered into this marriage with many many expectations.. to only realise that the ideals I have are pure misconceptions. Does it sound weird? but it’s true!
Myth 1: Once you get married, you can have lots of sex
YOU WISH!! Geez.. believe it or nt but BH and I rarely get intimate – ok.. not tt you are interested but the frequency is TWICE in a mth! pathetic? haha.. we had been married for a yr + and we haven’t done it for 100 times!!
eh.. I am not complaining. Being a guy, he’s a very willing party BUT I feel so insecure each time even when we use protection. So, I’m not enjoying.. just obliging.. In anyway, I wld rather not live in fear and anxiety before my period comes! I have so many plans for us and myself… 1 mistake will kill us!!! Hence, I resulted to “NO SEX! Can we just cuddle?” haha.. we don’t need sex to feel connected – now i wish i was in Avatar
“why don’t use birth control?” > I am afraid of weight gain 🙁
Myth 2: Going to bed together
This is sooooooo not true can.. BH had been really bz at work… so we sleep at different times. I will sleep early and he’ll crawl into bed ( and wake me up) in the wee hours in the morning… bad… disrupting my sleep and sometimes, I’ll wake up with a bad headache 🙁
Myth 3: Wear sexy lingerie
nah.. i hardly don’t wear sexy lingerie.. I mean.. y do I wanna put myself in danger man
Myth 4: Easier to create romantic surprises
Rubbish! I will kinda know if BH gets me something.. he will be sooooo sneaky abt it… and the worst is.. he hides the gift and I will accidentally ‘discover’ so… it’s not very fun.. In fact, you will get complacent and nt get any gifts for each other anymore… kinda sad.. but true
Myth 5: He throws the trash
I do this sh*t job too… coz after cooking, I will clean up the kitchen and the bin will stink ( and he’s not home).. so I got to do this disgusting job .. ( actually, not v gross la.. the building is new.. the trash room here is clean for now)
Myth 6: He/She will change after marriage
BH still works late and put works first. Don’t expect your partner to change. Accept whatever flaws/ bad habits BUT you can train him to do things your way 🙂 haha.. BH is well-trained like.. he knows how I wld put things ( after all the scoldings ) and does the ‘correct’ way. heh…
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haha.. will add on when I think of more 🙂
So far, we like married life.. that’s because we are both here in Seattle and we don’t have to care abt a thing in SG ( eg: whose relatives’ bday, which family dinner.. blah blah… you get the idea) -tt’s also one of the MAIN reason y we don’t wanna go home…
Sings – “It’s just me and you always…and forever..”