{"id":1189,"date":"2010-02-02T16:05:43","date_gmt":"2010-02-02T23:05:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seattletimes.6eptember.com\/?p=1189"},"modified":"2010-02-02T16:05:43","modified_gmt":"2010-02-02T23:05:43","slug":"misconceptions-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seattletimes.6eptember.com\/?p=1189","title":{"rendered":"Misconceptions of marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

waiting for the drycleaners to deliver my clothes.. they are late . hate to wait, seriously regretted rejecting\u00a0BH’s offer of us picking the jackets\u00a0up from the shop. Let me blog an entry while waiting.<\/span> Boo.. they are not coming today, coz they realise tt my white down jacket is still dirty \ud83d\ude41<\/em><\/p>\n

I have always wanted to put this into words .. so here goes –<\/p>\n

If you are like me, u will have many of your own ideals of a ‘perfect’ marriage.. i entered into this marriage with many many expectations.. to only realise that the ideals I have are pure misconceptions.\u00a0Does it sound weird? but it’s true!<\/p>\n

Myth 1: Once you get married, you can have lots of sex<\/strong><\/p>\n

YOU WISH!! Geez.. believe it or nt but BH and I rarely get intimate – ok.. not tt you are interested but the frequency is TWICE in a mth! pathetic? haha.. we had been married for a yr + and we haven’t done it for 100 times!!<\/p>\n

eh.. I am not complaining. <\/strong>Being a guy, he’s a very willing party BUT I feel so insecure each time even when we use protection. So, I’m not enjoying.. just obliging.. In anyway, I wld rather not live in fear and anxiety before my period comes! I have so many plans for\u00a0us and myself…\u00a01 mistake will kill us!!!\u00a0Hence, I resulted to “NO SEX! Can we just cuddle?” haha.. we don’t need sex to feel connected – now i wish i was in Avatar<\/p>\n

“why don’t use birth control?” > I am afraid of weight gain \ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n

Myth 2: Going to bed together<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is sooooooo not true can.. BH had been really bz at work… so we sleep at different times. I will sleep early and he’ll crawl into bed ( and wake me up) in the wee hours in the morning… bad… disrupting my sleep and sometimes, I’ll wake up with a bad headache \ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n

Myth 3: Wear sexy lingerie<\/strong><\/p>\n

nah.. i hardly<\/span> don’t wear sexy lingerie.. I mean.. y do I wanna put myself in danger man<\/p>\n

Myth 4: Easier to create romantic surprises<\/strong><\/p>\n

Rubbish! I will kinda know if BH gets me something.. he will be sooooo sneaky abt it… and the worst is.. he hides the gift and I will accidentally ‘discover’ so… it’s not very fun.. In fact, you will get complacent and nt get any gifts for each other anymore… kinda sad.. but true<\/p>\n

Myth 5: He throws the trash<\/strong><\/p>\n

I do this sh*t job too… coz after cooking, I will clean up the kitchen and the bin will stink\u00a0 ( and he’s not home).. so I got to do this disgusting job .. ( actually, not v gross la.. the building is new.. the trash room here is clean for now)<\/p>\n

Myth 6: He\/She will change after marriage<\/strong><\/p>\n

BH still works late and put works first. Don’t expect your partner to change. Accept whatever flaws\/ bad habits BUT you can train him to do things your way \ud83d\ude42 haha.. BH is well-trained like.. he knows how I wld put things ( after all the scoldings ) and does the ‘correct’ way. heh…<\/p>\n

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haha.. will add on when I think of more \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

So far,\u00a0we like married life.. that’s because we are both here in Seattle and we don’t have to care abt a thing in SG ( eg: whose relatives’ bday, which family dinner.. blah blah…\u00a0 you get the idea) -tt’s also one of\u00a0the MAIN reason y we don’t wanna go home…<\/p>\n

Sings – “It’s just me and you always…and forever..”<\/p>\n

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waiting for the drycleaners to deliver my clothes.. they are late . hate to wait, seriously regretted rejecting\u00a0BH’s offer of us picking the jackets\u00a0up from the shop. Let me blog an entry while waiting. Boo.. they are not coming today, coz they realise tt my white down jacket is still dirty \ud83d\ude41 I have always … <\/p>\n

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