Category: Marriage

haha.. i definitely don’t wanna be like Ris Low :X

well, i was just thinking if my blog had turned into a random review blog.. like.. recently i had reviewed about food, bags, movies… and v little about myself and our lives… heh… is it getting boring? So Bh was like saying that I shld blog about myself…but things about me revolves about him now ..and BH isn’t the most interesting person in the world to blog about… heh..

Life in seattle had been more or less the same as the previous few mths.. except tt we are so gonna move to an apartment upstairs..hmm… we are kinda tired of loft living ( haha.. shld i say ground floor penthouse? more glam mah! hehe)… it’s cool that we have a HUGE place by ourselves… and I love our storage place in my current home and the awfully huge closet… Things are gonna change coz i have set a new target for us .. it’s the “SET AMANDA FREE” fund .. so we are gonna save every single grain of rice, every drop of water and also give up every inch of personal space and move to a smaller place just upstairs of our current home.. ;p nah.. we haven’t even seen the place yet but we kinda ‘chop’ it as 1 bedrm aptments are HOT! so.. just hope that things go right!

Talking about home… i was surfing the internet and found out that the HDB flat which we ‘chop’ in 2008 is gonna be completed next yr! :O it’s so fast! I mean.. if we were in SG, we will be super thrilled by it… but now we are kinda worried… and instead of looking forward to getting the keys… we are like “eh… how long can we push back the getting keys period?”

So suddenly, I came up wih a brilliant plan (maybe not very brilliant)!! I suggested that maybe BH shld just give up his job and go home.. heh.. anyway, we are in a win-win situation… then again… the process of getting where we are at now is really tedious.. how can we give up so easily?

ya know…buying a apartment or condo here is so much cheaper… they even come with in built cabinents and stove, oven, fridge!!! and pple actually see the real place b4 buying!! we haf been so deprieved in SG!

and furthermore, i really love my life now… i wake up every morning happy! and i look forward to every day of my life ( except the cooking and do housework part)… i didn’t know that life is so beautiful until now 🙂

nah.. i can’t work here… but i still ‘work’ ya see.. my boss is BH and we run our company of 2… haha…just need to blog abt this b4 i forget..

so BH and I will be going back to SG next year ( date not confirmed) as he needs to renew his visa… coincidentally, my NPL will end next yr as well… I was telling BH that i don’t think i wanna come back with him.. and I gave him these reasons:

1) I am doing nothing to contribute to the society here.. everything is all about YOU! when i work, at least i contribute and make a difference to the kids/pple i come in contact to

2) I am so afraid of being isolated from the society.. coz I’m not working and I’m still so young

3) The only thing I have qualification on and what I can do is TEACH!! And teaching is so not versatile… what i know/learn in SG may not be applicable here… it’s not like computing… the computer language is the same all ard the world

BH was quite upset and disappointed.. “I don’t see a point of you going back to suffer” awww…. so sweet *puke* ( he probably thought tt he wld suffer w/o me.. ) so he reminded me about my ‘Seattle job’:

1) Others work from 9am-6pm. I rest or do whatever I want from 9am-6pm. ( ya.. i work on Saturday and Sunday too.. coz boss is at home)

2) Weekends now, we can go Portland, Vancouver, snoqualmie and everywhere else without worries!!! In SG, I go JB also difficult ( need to mark this, have to settle that..)

3) I can buy anything I want here ( Boss pays).. in SG, I’ll be too “stingy” to spend my seriously HARD earn money

4) Bonus here is 100% of my ‘salary’ whereas IF i go back… it’s dependent on the economy…

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BH was like… “eh… u wanna be CEO is it?? ”

haha… aren’t I already one?? ;p

the weather is seriously getting COLD!!! I was contemplating if I shld switch on the heater… coz IF i switch it on… it will be dusty ( and i just cleaned the house!!) and it’s really very drying for the skin… sigh… IF i don’t switch on.. i’ll be cold… haha… geez… anyways, me got to make a trip to the post office later ( for obvious reasons)

ya.. so… coz fall is here.. it’s getting cold and i can’t help it but to eat more… iyoh.. i was trying so hard to cook food tt don’t taste good BUT i can’t!!! don’t taste good = won’t eat more mah… damn sianz… just can’t cook disgusting food.. hahaha… have been cooking so much tt i think my cooking is superb man!!! seriously, 1 hand hold notebook, talk to my mum on skype, the other hand do cooking! power not!!! and the food.. taste good la….

so i make Bh eat the alot alot of food .. then i eat so little for myself… man… then i get hungry and psyco myself I am full and the food is gross… grrr….. how… i’m hungry now…

okok.. shall eat something.. go post office… prepare dinner…gym.. iron clothes..

boooooo…. BH told me tt he will most possibly be working late next week – their product lauching … i’ll be eating dinner alone… and i soooooooo don’t wanna be a.l.o.n.e

Do i sound ah lian enuff?? haha

Today marks the day BH and I officially become man & wife… it’s so cliche but i still got to say time flies… This is the 6eptember entry which shld be written last yr.. BUT I was too bz… with.. sadly… my work 🙁

Looking back, I would definitely wanna be more involved in planning our wedding.. afterall, it’s once in a lifetime… ah.. i regret…

Let’s recall the events leading to our wedding –

Last year in march, BH’s sucessful job interview changed our life forever 🙂 His job requires him to be relocated to Seattle, WA. That’s when BH wanted to bring me over with him. Note the word ‘wanted’ – coming together to start our lives here is a ‘want’ which requires alot of planning… we weren’t even planning to get married in the year 2008! and it seem almost impossible for us to plan our wedding in such a short time… BUT we did… coz BH believed we can make it…

Ok… so I was really very bz with work… being in a noble profession and starting out in my career.. there were many many things I had to do… so.. i seriously wasn’t even doing the researching for bridal studio, photographer.. blah blah… so BH did the research, made the apptments, do the liaising and I was only required to be there and decide… Well, I’m very thankful for BH who was bz with his work and also making most of the wedding preparation … ah… the difference between ‘want’ and ‘need’ > ‘want’ – luxury item. ‘need’ – basic requirement…  I feel like a princess.. 🙂

After 6 mths of prep, the day came very quickly.. I even rem tt I had to work a few days before the wedding… man… seriously, I was more engrossed in working than my wedding!! well… really got to thank BH for his patience… he was soooooo bz tt he slept really late tying up the loose end the day before the wedding… whereas for me… i didn’t even feel excited or anxious.. i fell asleep real fast and slept like a log! wahaha..

Very soon.. the day came! 6 September 2008 .. The day we’ll rem for the rest of our lives… prior this day, the weather was real gloomy and rainy…surprisingly, on the exact date, the weather was wonderful!! 🙂

Make-up artist came – put on the make up, parents put on my veil ( which i forgt to put in down as i walk down the aisle in church)

Sisters and brothers gearing up for the ‘battle’

and finally… BH ‘collected’ the bride.. everything feels like a dream… it happened really fast…

Then we proceed to Bh’s place for tea ceremony then to St Anne’s Church for the Wedding service…

[Sidetrack] Getting married in church was not ez. In order to hold our wedding in church, we had to book the church abt 6mths in advanced! BUT we had less than 6 mths!! So we checked with the church for dates available then we decided on the wedding date… which is 6eptember! Then BH & I had to ‘book’ a priest… so we went to look for the kind and very humorous Fr Kenny! He was really funny and make us feel really comfy 🙂 Bh and I also attended the ‘Catholic Engaged Encounter’ , a 3 day 2 night camp, which we enjoyed! We had to make the wedding booklet! Fr. Kenny was v patient! He taught us how to make the booklet and gave us many ideas on how to beautify it!! He also reviewed and edited our wedding booklet many times 🙂 Thank You and I thank God for His blessings upon us!

Wedding in church – tt’s when i got nervous! I was on the bridal car outside church.. waiting for 11am.. saw many friends and relatives streaming into the church.. and i gt scared! The thing is… BH and I and the bridesmaids DID NOT have any rehearsals due to time constraints!! everything was on the spot… sooo… i was super scared things will screw up!!!Phew… things went on fine.. just tt i forgt to put down my veil as i walk in… and for the whole 6eptember… i DID NOT take any pics with my parents and sis. sad man.. i still feel upset thinking abt it now 🙁

anyway, walked in… saw Fr Kenny at the back of the church.. he was smiling and he gave me a ‘wink’ > he made me feel good and comforted tt everything will be fine ! so i put my anxieties aside and believed in HIM 🙂

The moment arrived for us t0 exchange rings!! and u know what!!! BH and I didn’t practise this!! we didnt even memorise the vows!! man… i was freaked out…my brain was like ” which finger? which hand?” so.. i anyhow! now i look at the pics… like wrong hand right??? haha

After the church ceremony, my family had the tea ceremony while the rest of the guests enjoyed the delicious buffet. After which, we went to The Regent to prepare for the banquet.

Banquet started late, abt 8pm? Hmm… i seriously didn’t even go to the ballroom b4 the walk-in… My friends and Bh settled everything! I mean EVERYTHING!! I even had the time to take a nap!!! believe it or nt!!! 🙂 Special thanks to Caryn, Fel, YM, Zhihui,  Tania, Christine, my little sis… and BH for coordinating and make sure everything is in place!

[Note-worthy] BH took he longest time ever to pop the champange!!! hahaha… tt’s super funny… everyone at the dinner was like laughing at him man

Speech by friends and my little sis was really touching and memorable 🙂

The day ended late and we had a blast 🙂 Counting angbao $$ wasn’t our job… so we had a good rest and had a room service breakfast ( included by the hotel) in our bridal suite..

Took 1 week leave and our honeymoon to Osaka was wonderful… Bh and I didn’t stay together after marriage… we just went back to our own home… things were just normal… then BH got relocated 1st in Nov .. and I only met him in late Nov after my long term no pay leave was approved…technically, we haven’t stayed together for 1 yr? haha… and BH and I are very much like best friends?? Mayb coz we’ve been dating for 6+yrs??? Don’t feel like we r married… and we still love shopping and travelling! and we love it here… tt’s all…

phew.. so glad i had the time to blog all these down now… ;p now I have more space in my brain for other things… heh…

Happy 6eptember to us! Hope tt everyday will be a 6eptember day!

PS: After 1 yr, looking at the ring on BH’s finger still mk my heart skip a beat! The ring is a everyday evidence tt 6eptember isn’t a dream and it did happen!

so we woke up early today… very early in fact at 6.45am! and we  just cant get back to slp! weird… it has been 2 days consecutively .. cld be mayb daylight saving time is coming??

well.. good to wake up early.. had breakfast then head to the outlets… walk for awhile… went to the casino for a looooooooooong while… BH was quite lucky with the slots today… not me 🙁 he won my ‘loss’ back… sooo.. with our winnings, we left very soon and went to Ranch99 & bought groceries…

I realised tt our groceries trip is always very 1 sided…it’s as though i’m the one who needs to eat and he don’t… what happen is….at the supermarket… bh wld play with his handphone ( blocking pple’s way with this super bochap and uninterested attitude) .. geez… sooooooooo IRRITATING!!!!! i wanna throw his bloody phone away man!!! i mean… he don’t even want to contribute ideas to what to eat/buy! makes me very frustrated… damn upset…. i hate this really… and when i think abt such things i wanna go home 🙁

haiz… bh is supposed to reformat my comp for me.. it has been weeks!!! I hope my comp gets well soon…

These few weeks (until now) are pretty stressful days for BH.. hmm.. he used to work late at the office but after some form of “hell” from me – he had decided to come home on time , do his regular hsehold chores then work thru’ the night…

well… he’s getting kinda short tempered too… so need to be very tactful and sensitive.

Example 1:
Do not say “eee… u got new pimples!”
Say “There’s some new evidence of you becoming younger on your face!”

Example 2:
Do not say ” you didn’t wash the plates properly”
Say ” you really enjoy my cooking that you wanna leave some leftovers for tml”

ahem… frens and family who’s coming… u r warned!!! unless u miss the ‘angry chicken’ drama… haha… :X

I thnk the stress is kinda getting to me too .. like he’ll wake up every morning and tell me he feels stressed? hmm… i seriously do not know how to help him 🙁 so…i can only keep my mouth shut and play the supportive role – “Don’t worry, God will help you” , ” I pray for u.. things will b fine”. But then again right after the wedding, he doesn’t even wanna belief in “God” anymore… it’s sad…

Anyway, he’ll be delightfully happy that Caryn & I will be going for a short getaway next week – nobody to pester him to come home for dinner b4 the dishes gets cold. I bet he loves to eat microwave food and instant noodles!

When things are ard, you don’t cherish – wait till things are gone, then you’ll feel the loss. ahhh…this is life…

My husband is Software Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why? ” he asked, shocked.

“I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world !” I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right… It’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?”

He said: ” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….

My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but….please allow me to explain the reasons further…..

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand…and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face…

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die … ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… And as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form …

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… AND THAT’S LIFE

People often goes for romantic gestures, surprises and sweet words whispered into their ears. We fall in love and feel loved because of these so called romantic moments.

But the truth is romantic moments cannot show how much a person loves you. They merely create the feeling of being loved.

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No i didn’t write the story – got it off someone’s blog.. Thanks!

I can so totally relate to this story man… even if one day BH and I reached this pt.. i don’t think he’ll even give a damn to do something romantic just to rekindle the r/s

Ultimately, call me immature or what – i don’t care if he love me “deep deep” or not… i wld rather have romantic moments 🙁